5 Tips for Chronic Illness Burnout from a Chronic Illness Therapist

In this blog post, I share some of the common reasons for chronic illness burnout. I also provide tips for how to get relief from burnout related to chronic illness. 

My name is Halle M. Thomas and I’m a therapist serving both Longmont, CO and Portland, Oregon. My private practice Chicory Counseling focuses on providing individual therapy and couples counseling. One of my areas of expertise is in working with people who have one or more chronic illnesses. In addition to my work with chronically ill people, I myself am a chronically ill person and have my own lived experience with navigating chronic illness burnout.

The CDC reports that an estimated 6 in 10 adults in the United States have at least one chronic illness. While it is a known fact that so many adults are experiencing chronic illness, burnout related to chronic illness is often unacknowledged. This leads many people with chronic illness to feel even further isolated.

Why You Might Be Experiencing Chronic Illness Burnout

Reason 1: Being chronically ill is time consuming. 

It might sound obvious, but the fact remains: being chronically ill takes up a lot of time. From managing symptoms to attending frequent medical appointments, being chronically ill can feel like a full time job that you can’t clock out of. Because chronic illness takes up so much time and energy, it can get in the way of participating in activities you actually enjoy. This can lead many people to feeling resentful toward their bodies for being unable to keep up with activities they engaged in prior to their chronic illness diagnosis.

Reason 2: Inequity in the healthcare system. 

In the United States, the quality of healthcare you receive is closely related your race, sexual orientation, gender, socioeconomic status, citizenship status, and geography. Going to the doctor is already a stressful experience for many people, but it becomes even more difficult when experiencing any form of discrimination from medical providers. 

Reason 3: Being chronically ill is costly. 

Anyone who’s opened up a medical bill in the United States knows how shocking the experience can be. However, when you are chronically ill the experience can go from shocking to numbing due to receiving medical bills on a more frequent basis. While insurance can sometimes buffer the financial burden, it is not always the case.

If you do not have health insurance, the fear of anticipated costs connected to your chronic illness can be panic-inducing. Of the 100 million adults who have healthcare debt, 12% of them owe an estimated $10,000 or more. 

Reason 4: Lack of understanding from other people.

It can be difficult to explain what it is like to be chronically ill. You might have energy to go out for dinner one day, and be unable to leave your bed the next day. This can also prompt chronically ill people to worry that their partners, family, friends, co-workers, or employers won’t believe them when they say they’re not feeling well enough to participate in certain activities. 

What to Do If You’re Experiencing Chronic Illness Burnout 

Tip 1: Learn about Spoon Theory. 

Spoon Theory uses “spoons” as a unit of energy, and was developed in 2003 by Christine Miserandino to describe her experience with lupus. The basic idea is that you have a limited number of spoons on any given day and different activities require a certain number of spoons. 

In addition to allowing countless people to feel seen and understood in their experiences, Spoon Theory provides a common language for chronically ill people to use with each other. It can also be useful for family and friends who may struggle to understand why a chronically ill person’s energy may appear to vary from hour-to-hour, or day-to-day.

Tip 2: Look into different forms of self-care. 

When you’re chronically ill, your energy levels can look different on a day-to-day basis. Instead of focusing on self-care that looks social media worthy, consider keeping it simple. Watching your favorite movies or shows, spending time with your pets, and wearing clothing that is comfortable for you are a few examples of ways to care for yourself. Self-care might also include saying no to plans that are in conflict with symptoms related to your chronic illness. 

Tip 3: Consider either limiting the number of appointments you attend in a week, or stacking your appointments.

As a disclaimer, this isn’t medical advice. Please follow the recommendations of your healthcare provider. 

If you’re someone who needs to attend a variety of appointments for your condition(s), it can be tiring to attend multiple appointments each week. Consider asking your doctor which appointments are critical and which can be scheduled further out. Depending on the feedback they provide, you might be able to put a limit on the number of appointments you attend in a week. This could look like scheduling that imaging appointment one week, and a blood draw appointment the following week depending on their level of importance.

Conversely, you might be someone who prefers to stack your appointments. This looks like picking one or two days out of the week to schedule multiple medical appointments. For those who have multiple medical providers who are either in the same building, or in otherwise close proximity, this approach can be especially useful from a time-saving perspective.

Tip 4: Join a support group for chronic illness. 

Connecting with other people who understand your lived experience can be a validating experience. Beyond My Battle and Made of Millions are two online groups worth checking out. Both offer support groups and meetups in addition to information about advocacy. You can also use sites like Psychology Today and even MeetUp to find local support group options. 

Tip 5: Attend Chronic Illness Therapy. 

If you live in Colorado or Oregon, you can reach out to me for Chronic Illness Therapy. I can provide you with the space to talk about how chronic illness is affecting all aspects of your life. I can also teach you different ways of processing any grief or anger you’re experiencing related to your body and your experience with chronic illness. 

If you live in a state other than Colorado or Oregon, I recommend using Melanin and Mental Health, Therapy Den, or Inclusive Therapists to find a therapist who’s licensed to practice in the state you live in. You can also filter your results for both in-person and virtual therapy options.

If You’re Experiencing Chronic Illness Burnout, You Deserve Support

Chronic illness burnout is a common occurrence for those with one or more chronic illnesses. If chronic illness burnout is affecting you, know that you have different options for accessing support. I hope the information I’ve covered can be of some help and reassurance to you.

Hi! I’m Halle, a Chronic Illness Therapist serving Longmont, CO and Portland, OR.

Hi! I’m Halle, a queer, biracial, African-American therapist serving the states of Colorado and Oregon. I’m also chronically ill, and I help other chronically ill people relate to their bodies in new ways.

I know firsthand what it’s like to navigate the medical system, to feel unheard, and to feel isolated due to chronic illness. I’ve noticed it is all too common for chronically ill people to feel they don’t have a place where they can speak freely about the impacts of their illnesses on their lives and relationships.

My hope for you is a life where you can begin to process the grief tied to your chronic illness, to build a community of people who share in your experience, and to feel truly heard.

If you live in the states of Colorado or Oregon and want to work with me, reach out for a complimentary consultation.