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Grief is one of the most common experiences we have as humans. Just because it's common, however, doesn't mean that everyone feels like they know how to navigate their grief in ways that feel nurturing. From ideas about the Stages of Grief, to societally-imposed timelines about when one should "get over" a loss, our collective culture in the United States could likely benefit from a shift in how we talk about grief.
Grief is more than a period of intense sadness, or sorrow, and because of that, it's not entirely useful to thinking about grief as something you "get over." When I talk about grief, I'm talking about the loss of people, and pets, and difficult moves to other states, and job loss, and miscarriage, and losing family heirlooms, and natural disasters, and I could honestly fill up this entire blog post with so many iterations of grief it would make your head spin. So what happens if we shift to thinking about grief as an expression of how we experience (dis)connection to, or from, people, places, items, events, etc? Did your eyes get a little wider reading that? Grief requires tenderness and care and part of that care is ensuring that we're comprehensive in our definitions of grief. If you're interested in diving deeper into your own understanding (or experiences) of grief, I recommend the following: The Dinner Party The Dougy Center It's Okay That You're Not Okay Option B What's Your Grief @WritingGrief  It's Bisexual+ Awareness Week, which means it's time for a quick chat about bisexuality, queerness, and belonging. But first, let's revisit a caption from last year's post on Bisexuality Day:
"When I discuss bisexuality, I’m talking about folks who experience romantic or sexual attraction (in varying degrees) to people who are either similar to, or different from their own gender presentation and identity. Bisexuality is valid and bisexual people deserve to have space in the LGBTQ+ community where they are not required to prove they are queer enough to be there. Whether you are a cisgender woman partnered with a transman, a transman partnered with a nonbinary femme, a cisgender man partnered with another cisgender man, or any other beautiful combination, your bisexuality is valid." I still stand by last year's post, because it's true: your bisexuality is valid and you belong here. When folks come to me for therapy regarding concerns around their bisexuality, it's usually because of social rejection they've faced around their identity, which can sometimes result in internalized biphobia, or as writer Gabrielle Smith calls it, Queer Imposter Syndrome. Here are some other reasons why people seek out therapy regarding their bisexuality:
For further reading on the experiences of bisexual folks, I recommend the following: The Unique Challenges of Being Both Biracial and Bisexual by Caitie Gutierrez Why I Don't Like Being Asked Which Gender I Prefer by Zachary Zane Why Bisexuals Stay In The Closet by Emily Alpert  What comes to mind when you think of fall? Maybe you're thinking about Pumpkin Spice Lattes and cozy sweaters. Maybe Halloween is a months-long affair for you and you're already decorating your living space. Or maybe you're sitting at your work-from-home set up wondering how you're going to get through the next several months.
If you identify with the latter category, let's cover some basics and see what we can do to get you set up for a different fall experience. Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) is a type of depression that corresponds with changes in seasons. It typically operates in a cyclical fashion and can begin in the fall and end in the spring, or vice versa (shoutout to the Summertime Blues Crew, you're not alone!). While approximately 3 million people are diagnosed with SAD in the United States each year, they're not the only people who can have a hard time during the fall. COVID-19 has drastically changed how most folks would plan for the this time of year. From interruptions in travel, to loss of jobs, and loss of loved ones, this fall season is saturated with grief. With so much out of your control, what can you do this fall? Below are two mini-survival guides based on what you personally feel you have the energy for. Fall Survival: Essentials Edition
Fall Survival: Explorer Edition
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